The Perks of Being Single
Posted on February 8, 2009 | Categories: Question of the Week, Relationships | Tags: opinions
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In terms of relationships, I spent the last half of 2008 being in a semi-official, kind-of-not-really-but-really relationship1. By the time 2009 rolled around, I was once again officially single. And while it was a little heartbreaking at first (although that could be attributed to the demise of the quasi-relationship that I was in rather than my actual newly single state) it was good to be single once again. With all the hype surrounding Valentine’s Day, I think now is as good a time as ever to focus on the perks of being single.
I love being independent. I always have, and while I don’t mind all the sharing and spending of time together that comes with being in a relationship, I also love not having to answer to anyone. I love being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, and that none of my actions could land me in trouble with my significant other. I am a flirtatious person by nature, and while I obviously refrain from flirting with others when I’m in a relationship, it’s nice to be able to interact with boys the way I naturally would rather than having to keep myself in check2. I love the freedom of being single. Acting however I want around whomever I want to be around is fantastic, and I love not having to divide my time between a boy and my friends.
All of that is fairly easy to give up when you find someone you want to be with, but it’s hard to find someone that’s worth it. So hard that in fact, I might prefer being single over being in a relationship. At least with being single you still have the freedom to scope out and have fun with the fish in the sea!
Question of the Week: Even if you are currently in a relationship, everyone’s been single at one point or another. What do you feel are some of the perks, or benefits, of being single?
- That description doesn’t even begin to describe how complicated the situation was. I could write an entire novel about the whole story [↩]
- I sound like a tease when it’s phrased like that, but honestly, that’s not how it is. There’s simply a delicate balance between coming across as a natural flirt or a forceful flirt, especially when you are meeting new people and your “sort of” relationship situation is too complicated to explain [↩]
Yos
Ooh being single is fun, it just is. it’s wonderful! I mean, nobody to dig into your life and parents asking weird, random questions about it… Ah, Now I need Beyonce to sing me “Single Ladies”, although I’m not a lady o.o”
Kaylee
I’m scared of the sea! I don’t mind being single; I don’t understand why so many girls my age feel the need to be in a relationship. I’m only in high school, anyway, so I’m not at a time in my life where I would want to get into the complications and drama that comes along with dating. I like to focus on myself and stay busy with my own thing :)
Chris Praley
I like being single for th emost part (except for those lonely Saturday nights). I’m much more organized and get much better grades. It’s easier to focus! :)
Rosier
Being single is pretty great, but can get annoying after a while. After breaking up with my boyfriend (how long has it been – one year, already?), I was asked out quite many times, but refused every single boy, because honestly… I’m too good for them! ;P
No matter how egoistic it may sound, I just feel like I can’t “hand myself over” to some “he will do it for the time being”-kind of guy.
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