In the two months of 2010 that have passed, I think I’ve learned more about how to detoxify my life than I did in the last eighteen years.
Gone are traitorous best friends. Gone are dirty lying ex-boyfriends that waffle between wanting to transition into becoming friends after the breakup and getting back together. Gone are all the relationships in my life that I have been hanging onto for far too long without practical reason.
I am a strong and independent woman who deserves care, respect, and honesty. If the people in my life can’t give me those things, then I don’t see why I should keep them around.
I know who I am, I know what I want, and I know how I want to live my life. If I hang onto all of these relationships that cause me nothing but pain and hurt and hold me back from achieving my full potential, I am not going to get anywhere in life.
I can’t let that happen. I won’t let that happen.
It’s time for me to finally free myself from the boundaries my ex-friends and ex-boyfriends have managed to set for me post-friendship/relationship breakup and cut them out of my life. I need to detoxify from the poisonous effects of maintaining relationships with these people. I refuse deal with other people’s crap anymore for the sake of sentimental reasons; it’s time to be practical and move on.
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Clem
It’s really easy to be pressured into letting things slide, even if the same people do the same things over and over again. It’s hard to realise your own self-worth sometimes! I’m glad you’re cutting all the toxic people out of your life. You deserve better.
Ashley
Good for you! I did the same thing this year as well – the girls I hung out with in high school took a horrendous downturn, and even though it was hard, I cut off my contact with them and really, it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. There’s no reason for people to bring you down like that.
Krissy
WOO! Go Team Manda! It takes a certain amount of courage and strength to cut ties. As you know, I’m sort of going through a similar thing. Learning to know when a relationship is holding you back or impacting you negatively is something we only learn in time. :)
Marie
Good for you, Manda! I think certain relationships deserve attention and work, but some are just (as your title says) absolutely toxic, and need to be severed before they start to have a severely negative impact on your life. I did a similar “detox” last year when I got ride of some friends who did nothing but stab me in the back and gossip about me. It really does feel liberating, and the only thing I regret is not having done it sooner.
Crissy
Sometimes, the pressure of being ‘the good one’ and forgiving things gets to be too much. Being the good friend just makes you the weak one at one point. I’m very glad that you’re moving on from your troubles and being strong/logical about them all. Sometimes, a lost cause is just a lost cause :( Good luck with it all :)
Lucy
Yay, go Manda! Good for you! I think at some point, we all need to detoxify our life and rid ourselves of the the nastiness that is dragging us down. You deserve more, and you have every right to be strong and move forward. I wish you nothing but good things for your future. :)
Amy
Doesn’t it feel great to get rid of those who bring you down? Almost zen like. It’s hard to do, but so worth it. Good for you!
Johanna
Good for you Manda! You don’t need that kind of evil people in your life. I’ve done the same thing (cut evil, poisonous people out of my life) myself and I do not regret it at all. Doesn’t it feel good to breathe the fresh, clean air now?
Damita
Well done!!! I wish I could do the same :)
Regina
Well said, and good for you! I need to learn how to do that. :P
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