I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day.
I like the idea of appreciating your partner and showing you love him or her and all that. Who wouldn’t? But I don’t really know how I feel about the idea of doing it on a designated day (shouldn’t it be every day, or at least on spontaneous days?) and getting bombarded with marketing ploys by Hallmark and Hershey and 1-800-FLOWERS.
Aside: What I can totally get behind is the fact that Valentine’s Day chocolates go on sale starting on the 15th. Except that I’ve decided to give up chocolate for Lent this year, so this year’s post-Valentine’s Day chocolate sales do me no good. The post-Easter chocolate sales will be better timing for me!
Anyway. That’s not to say I wouldn’t appreciate getting flowers, or chocolate, or going out to dinner, or whatever on Valentine’s Day, because of course I would and I have before. I had a most excellent Valentine’s Day last year, where I received a bouquet of roses from G the first time. I still have one of the flowers from the bouquet saved; I dried it and it’s sitting in a wine bottle vase on my desk at home. But I would appreciate all that stuff on any other day or the year, too.
What I do criticize the holiday for is that it puts a lot of (unnecessary, in some cases) pressure on guys and inevitably provides a platform for couples to draw comparisons about their relationship to that of others – as if the fact that Girl A’s boyfriend took her out to a fancy dinner complete with a reservation at a luxurious hotel for the evening obviously means that their relationship is a happier one that that of Girl B’s, whose boyfriend “only” took her out to dinner and gave her conversation hearts, not nice chocolates, and regular ol’ flowers, not roses. Like spending more money automatically equates more happiness!
For a holiday that is meant to be all about love and appreciation, there sure is a lot of pressure involved. Not to mention the expectation of spending lots of money, which is ironic because money can’t buy love.